BDSM, Kink, Polyamory, & Alternate Lifestyles

BDSM, Kink, Polyamory, Sexwork, & Alternate Lifestyles

“[BDSM is] childhood joyous play with adult sexual privilege and cool toys.” 

— Midori

“Kink/BDSM is creativity applied to sex.”

— Me

Your sweet dreams are made of these: binding or being bound, using or being used, one or two or many loves and lovers.

You may be uncertain and anxious because you are a novice, or perhaps you’re a lifelong community member at ease with your lifestyle who needs general support. Together we can help you live stealth or out loud.

My approach is not to pathologize your involvement in BDSM/kink or consensual nonmonogamy, but instead to view it as an exploration of sexuality, power, control, relationships, communication, negotiation, and even existential meaning. As a Kink Aware Practitioner and someone with extensive personal experience in BDSM, Dominant/submissive, Master or Mistress/slave, polyamory and consensual nonmononogamy, and other sexually marginalized lives, our collaboration will help you live with authenticity, safety, and delight.

“The S/M subculture is a theater in which sexual dramas can be acted out and appreciated... S/M eroticism focuses on whatever feelings or actions are forbidden, and searches for a way to obtain pleasure from the forbidden... My sexual semiotics differ from the mainstream. So what? I didn’t join the feminist movement to live inside a Hallmark greeting card.”

— Patrick Califia